The Secret to be Happy
Before I stared the speech I would like to know how many people are always happy? How many of you have had a bad day, you are frustrated and end up not very happy? Please raise your hand.
Dear Chairperson, fellow toastmasters and distinguished guests. Today’s topic is about “the secret to be happy”. When I was a kid and very few times I felt not happy because my parents had not bought me a new doll as they promised or I was freaked out by boys bad trick, sometimes those boys in my class like to put a bedbug in my schoolbag because they knew I hate all kinds of insects.
As I grow, there seems more and more things could make me unhappy. Such as when somebody told me I looks like I gained some weight, or I had a bad day during work, or I just chose a wrong restaurant and had a bad meal. The unhappiness seems like a snowball and accumulated all the way along with our life, I wondered if there’s a pill that could make people happier.
In lieu of a pill, I have found three simple secrets to being happy.
Firstly. Look around the kids around you; did you notice that kids are very easy to be happy? Why is that? The answer is they don’t expect much. In their world, game and play is everything. They don’t have expectations like sophisticated adults who wish to have new clothes, move to a bigger house or find a job with higher salary. One of the most important things that we can do in our modern world is to simplify, to do less rather than more. The problem is that we try and cram more and more things into less and less time, and we pay a price. So doing less — for example, switching our phone off for three hours when we get home, or not responding to every e-mail as it arrives, having what I call e-mail-free zones — these little things, simplifying our lives even slightly, can make a significant difference to our productivity as well as happiness.
Secondly. To be optimistic, not to be pessimistic. There’s an old story about optimist and pessimism There’s an old story about gain and loss in China. Once upon a time, there was a farmer in China. He didn’t have a lot of money and, instead of a tractor; he used an old horse to plow his field。 One afternoon, while working in the field, the horse dropped dead. Everyone in the village said, “Oh, what a horrible thing” The farmer said simply, “We’ll see。” He was so at peace and so calm, that everyone in the village got together and, admiring his attitude, gave him a new horse as a gift。 Everyone’s reaction now was, “What a lucky man。” And the farmer said, “We’ll see.”
A couple days later, the new horse jumped a fence and ran away. Everyone in the village shook their heads and said, “What a poor fellow!” The farmer smiled and said, “We’ll see.” Eventually, the horse found his way home, and everyone again said, “What a fortunate man.” The farmer said, “We’ll see.” Later in the year, the farmer’s young boy went out riding on the horse and fell and broke his leg. Everyone in the village said, “What a bad thing for the poor boy.” The farmer said, “We’ll see.” Two days later, the army came into the village to draft new recruits. When they saw that the farmer’s son had a broken leg, they decided not to recruit him. Everyone said, “What a fortunate young man.” The farmer smiled again—and said, “We’ll see.”
So think about the gain when you have a loss. An optimistic attitude goes a long way to making you happy.
Thirdly ,do some sports or find something you enjoy. Such as swimming, tennis, listening to music or singing. Physical exercise contributes a great deal to happiness; in fact, there is research showing that regular exercise, three times a week for 30 to 40 minutes of aerobic exercise is equivalent to some of our most powerful psychiatric drugs in dealing with depression or sadness or anxiety. We’ve become a sedentary culture where we park our car next to our workplace or take the train and we don’t walk like our fore parents used to. How far do we walk today? Well it depends on where we park our car. We were made to be physically active.
So, my dear friends, to be happy are not that difficult. Simplify your lives, look on the brighter side of life and Things to pick up your spirit